It’s the small things that matter. Sometimes if people are feeling stressed or overwhelmed they may just need a little order in their life. A person can have so much going on that they really don’t know how to bring order to their busy life. But there is hope and help. It really is the little things that make a big difference. There are some people that because of pride do not want to ask for help. Two is always going to be better than one.
What I always teach clients is to make sure you take care of yourself. Even on the airplane they tell you that if the air pressure drops to put your mask on first. A part of taking care of yourself is learning to say no. you must get rid of the guilt. You cannot be all things to everybody.
I have a saying, “If helping you is going to hurt me then sweetie, I can’t help you.” For example: It’s Saturday and you had to work, run errands and are so tired. All you want to do is eat and sleep. The phone rings and someone wants you to babysit. If saying yes, is going to hurt or hinder you from getting rest, then sweetie the answer is no. In your heart you want to do it but you are priority. They will find someone else. Besides it is short notice.
Here are some specific methods you can use in various aspects of your life.
If you have teenagers give them one night a week to cook. Have them write a grocery list, shop for coupons, go to the store, and prepare the meals. This will teach them how to manage money, responsibility, and how to cook. When doing Play Therapy we have a rule: Never do for a child what they can do for themselves. This will free you up to exercise, read a book, watch television or just relax.
If you don’t have children, plan your menus and try to find one dish 30 minute meals, use your crock-pot, cook food and freeze it. Clean one room at a time. Hire a housekeeper or order healthy meals from a restaurant.
Assign your child a day to clean a certain part of the house. This way you are not frustrated when you have given them three tasks and they haven’t completed anything. This way even the child doesn’t feel overwhelmed by trying to complete everything in one day.
-Write down a list of things that need to get done. Highlight the priority items. Assess how long it will take to get the priority items done. Assign a time to them. Don’t answer the phone during this time. This way the priority items are handled. For example:
11:30am – 2:30pm Take a client to lunch
3:00pm – 4:30pm Write a proposal
– It can be overwhelming for some to open their email. Have a set time to read and respond to emails.
– Close your door. This doesn’t mean you are being anti-social this means that you have to get some work done. You can socialize when you first get to work, during lunch, or after work. People shouldn’t take this personal it’s just business.
About Sonya Waddell, LPC
Sonya is a Licensed Professional Counselor outside of Atlanta, Georgia. She is the author of “Single Ladies: Living Holy in a Sexy World”. That can be purchased on Amazon.
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